Once upon a time one of Buddha’s disciples questioned lord buddha, dear lord, how can we refrain from getting angry and how to control anger?
Then Buddha said I will tell a story and that will help you all to block anger.
Once there was a very calm and quiet village full of paddyfields and the village was so quiet that only the sound of the birds singing and the river flowing by could be heard.
The villagers were also well brought up and when they talked to each other they talked very wise, in the sense they spoke to one another in such a way that they were almost whispering and had no loud conversations except for the singing of the farmers during the paddy harvesting season.
In this quiet village there lived a loud mouth lady who got into quarrels with the villagers very often and was well known for her anger that she gets very often.
She used to get angry over little things and in anger she used to say a lot of abusive words.But when her anger subsided she would feel very sorry. Her family was so upset,because of this and there was always an atmosphere of quarrel in her family where there were moments when the family members were torn apart.
One day a sage came to the door of that woman asking for arms. The woman told her problem to the monk. She said “oh wise one I get angry very quickly I cannot control my anger even if I wanted to.Tell me a solution so that I can control my anger. My family members also leave me .”
The monk felt very compassionate towards this old lady and took out a small bottle of medicine from his bag and gave it to her and said “take this mother”. This is a medicine for anger. Whenever you get angry, put four drops of the medicine on your tongue and keep it in the mouth for 10 minutes then gradually the medicine will dissolve.
Do not open the mouth for 10 minutes if not,the medicine will not have any effect.Saying this the monk left from there. The woman started using the medicine as per the instructions of the monk in just seven days she lost her habit of getting angry.
After seven days, when the monk again came to her door, the old woman fell at his feet and said oh wise one your medicine has done wonders to me. I don’t get angry now because of taking your medicine and there is peace in my family too.
Hearing her words the monk smiled and said mother there was no medicine in that bottle. In fact it was filled only with water. You have not controlled your anger by this medicine but you have controlled your anger by keeping quiet. After telling the story Buddha said that anger can only be controlled by keeping quiet. Because an angry person speaks abusive words which sparks controversy.
So the cure for anger is only silence. In life, when someone gets angry his mind stops working, and his mouth starts talking in anger the person speaks such abusive words for which he has to repent later. An angry person not only commits mental violence but can also commit physical violence, due to which sometimes he has to regret his whole life later on. If we keep silent in those moments of anger,then we will be saved from many fights and quarrels.
Therefore, whenever you get angry, always keep calm, take a few drops of the medicine, call silence in your mouth and close your mouth for some time and you will be saved from many troubles to come.